Public Speaking

For many extroverts, networking is their happy place and is very energising.  For many introverts, there are too many people, too much noise, and too many quick-fire conversations, so we snack at the buffet in the darkest corner until it all goes away.

If you’re an introvert, would you like to try it differently?

You don’t have to be social for hours on end to make meaningful connections.  Sometimes, you just need some anchor points to move you through an event.  Try these:

1. A warm opening

“Hi, I’m Erin.  Mind if I join you for a moment?”

(Use your own name, right?  Just checking… 😉)

It can be useful to identify an extrovert and join their group.  There’s less pressure on you and they’re often more likely to openly welcome you in.

2. A connection question

“What’s been a highlight of your week so far?”

For something more unusual:  the American author, David Sedaris, explains about using as many unusual connection questions as possible.  He once asked a woman, “When was the last time you touched a monkey?”  Her reply, “Oh, can you smell it on me?”

You never know what conversation will follow.

3. An introduction that isn’t a pitch

“I work in ….  Right now, I’m really focused on …”

e.g. I work in coaching.  Right now, I’m really focused on setting up some new IT systems so I can cope with the New Year influx of clients.

Share something succinct about yourself so your conversation partner has something to bounce off and to build trust in your interaction.

4. A graceful exit

“It was lovely chatting. I’m going to step out for a moment, but I hope you enjoy the evening.”

If you find that your social battery is running out but you can’t leave yet, ease back on being part of the conversation but keep listening with an engaged outlook.

5. A follow-up

“I really enjoyed meeting you tonight.  Would you be open to staying in touch?”

And here are a couple of things to know about yourself as you head into this season:

1. At what point does your social battery normally run out?

A friend of mine knows he’ll be getting low at the 2 hour 15 minute mark so times his appearances around that.  It’s a great thing to know what you can give rather than just feeling like you’re drained.

2. What boosts your energy?

I’ve linked to another of my blog posts, which mentions about energy drainers and energy boosters. Boost yourself before you go to these events.

Networking doesn’t need to be loud, long, or impressive. It just needs to be warm, light, and human… and have an exit strategy. 😊